R U OK?
R U OK? Day is an annual reminder of the importance of checking in with those around us. It’s a simple question: R U OK? And it’s one that we should be asking throughout the year. Life isn’t always easy. Family, friends and co-workers may be struggling with mental or physical ill health. By asking people if they’re ok, you’re offering them the opportunity to talk about their feelings or challenges with you. And your conversation might help empower them to take steps to address their situation.
Here’s how to ask R U OK? Any day of the year.
How to ask someone if they’re ok
- Make sure you find a quiet space
- Have some time available in case someone is ready to talk
- Ask a simple question to get the conversation started
You might lead in with ‘Are you ok?’ or ‘How are you feeling today?’ There are many different ways to check in. But it’s a good idea to choose a question that you are comfortable with. And that you think the person will respond to.
How to build the conversation
- Be prepared to listen
- Show empathy for their situation
- Prompt people to tell you more
You could ask ‘How long have you been feeling this way?’ or ‘Can you describe how you’re feeling?’ You might also ask someone ‘What support do you have in place at the moment?’
Statements like ‘I understand this must be difficult for you…’ can show empathy and encourage people encourage people to feel safe and share their feelings.
If someone isn’t ready or willing to talk, you could offer them an alternative. You might say ‘I’m here if you ever want to talk,’ or ‘Would you find it easier to talk to someone else?’
How to empower people to take action
- Signpost people to relevant sources of professional support
- Share ideas, make suggestions or mention strategies that have worked well for you, but don’t insist someone use them
You could encourage reflection and action by asking someone questions like ‘What would you like to happen in this situation?’ or ‘What is something that might help you right now?’ You could show you’re there for someone by asking ‘How can I support you to do this?’
If you’re aware that someone is facing major challenges or has been struggling for a while, actively encourage them to see a health professional.
How to check back in
- Make a note to check back in with people, in a day, a week or a month, depending on the situation
- Find a quiet space and have some time available
- Be prepared to listen without judgement and offer support where appropriate
You could check back in by saying ‘How have things been going in the last couple of weeks?’ or ‘How are you feeling now compared with last time we chatted?’ Again, choose a question that you are comfortable asking and that feels right for the person you are with.
It’s important to ask people if they’re ok – on any day of the year. By using a simple approach, you can help start a conversation, encourage discussion and ensure follow up. And your support might help empower someone to make a positive difference to their lives.
Important Contact Numbers
Lifeline: 13 11 14
Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636
Suicide Call Back Service: 1300 659 467
Men’s Line Australia: 1300 78 99 78
13 YARN: 13 92 76
QLife: 1800 184 527
All these helplines operate 24/7.
At Optimal Workforce we actively support R U OK Day? throughout the year. You can reach us on admin@optimalworkforce.com.au or 02 8077 7030.
